Restructuring Interactions Using Enactments - EFT Couple Therapy Switzerland

Prior to an enactment, which question is not important for the EFT therapist to consider?

Have I created a context in which the enactment will make sense?

Have I elaborated on and defined the rules for their conversation?

Have I created sufficient emotional intensity to begin?

Do I need to help the partners anticipate the contact?

Which of the following would be the best directive for an EFT enactment?

Using an “I” statement, could you tell Jim how you feel?

This money issue has been hard for the two of you to manage, could you talk together so I can get an idea of how you solve problems?

I think we agree that the anger you express is a reaction to feeling alone in the relationship. Could you explain to Tom what you are talking about?

You’re saying this feeling of shame is hard to bear, and it’s so hard to look at her. Is that it? Could you tell Jane now how hard it is to feel the shame and how hard it is to look at her?

The three stages of an enactment are:

What is the most usual way for the therapist to refocus after a detour?

The therapist can help a partner “anticipate” contact by doing a hypothetical walk through which is:

Which of the following would be a typical EFT directive for enacting present positions? (more than one correct answer)

“Can you tell George, ‘I can’t let down my guard. I won’t let down my guard. I won’t be hurt again.’ Could you say that to him now?”

“I wonder, Amy, have you ever thought of telling George that you don’t want to let down your guard? It’s too scary to trust. You were on your own for so long and now you have to protect yourself. Can you tell him?”

“It is important for you to tell George how you feel directly. Can you tell him the reasons you feel defensive?”

Write a therapist response helping to process each partner’s experience of the enactment

Therapist: “Sylvia… _______
Therapist: “Sam…_________